Fresh Off the Boat

Fresh Off the Boat

Imagine this, you are a passenger on a ship and your parents are the first and 2nd lieutenant, with God being their captain of course. If the captain gives an order and no one follows it, there is destruction. Think of the movie, The Titanic for example. In retrospect, it wasn’t the iceberg that made the Titanic to sink; do you recall? for those who haven’t seen the film yet, I encourage you to go and watch it before returning back to finish reading the rest of this post. Just kidding, don’t go anywhere; I’ve stayed up all night writing this just for you. 

So where was I? Ah yes, my conspiracy theory regarding the Titanic, which could have been prevented- if I might add. Yes, Kate Winslet, I’m talking to you. Whether or not you ever read this post, you and I both know that Leonardo DiCaprio did not have to die, in order for you to live and here is why:


That ship that sunk in the atlantic on that faithful night could have actually been prevented had the first and second lieutenant obeyed the warning and advice given by the captain of the ship. Many of us are living lives that are bound for destruction because we choose to ignore warnings and the command of the Captain. Honestly, when you think about it, there’s so much that can be learned from the movies we watch, if we pay attention. So, going back to the movie, when the captain sent the first signal to both his lieutenants, the destruction came in their inability to agree on the command given; one thought they knew best. Now, ask yourself who the captain of your ship is and whose orders you’re following. Would you say that you are obedient to the orders of your Captain or are you more like one of the lieutenants who is stuck in their own ways and direction? The physical can only see so far ahead. Careful or you might hit an iceberg.

 [Key part: when it comes to the ranking of the boat, the first lieutenant is higher than the 2nd, meaning: the husband is the head, but both he and his wife are called to work together as one unit, under the command of God, the Captain. Both have to be in synch or destruction will ultimately be their fate]. 

Feel free to think of the people in this boat as your family. Your parents, in this case, are the lieutenants and you are just a passenger that goes in the direction in which you are moved. As long as God is the one navigating, I have no problem being a passenger on any ship. But if the lieutenants are unable to agree or follow orders, there is no way they will get to their destination fast enough; if anything, they suffer the risk of a sinking ship, due to them delaying their own movement away from hazards that lie ahead. Now, I don’t mean to ruin this film for any new watchers, but the boat sank for the very same reasons. This could have been prevented.

To tie this closer to home, in an effort to provide you with a better understanding of what this looks like in reality, I’ll use the example of my friend, Jackson: Although Jackson is a grown man now, when he was younger, his family dynamic fell apart and the disunity between his parents forced him to have to choose a side. No child should ever have to do this. Little did he know that regardless of which side he chose on their ship, it would still sink at the end of the day. So, Parents: Never put your children in a position to choose. After all  they didn’t choose for you to be their parents, so making them choose now is unfair, inconsiderate and childish. If anything, it moves them further away from God’s direction and purpose for their own lives. If you REALLY loved your children, you would want to encourage them to honor both parents equally, to the glory of God, because in doing so, they are  pleasing the father and not missing out on their blessings. Now, don’t get me wrong, while Jackson is old enough now to make decisions for himself, at a place in his life where he doesn’t need anything from either one of his parents, he still has a role to play in keeping this boat afloat. Jacksons case is no different from many people in this day and age. There are many families who are sinking ships, abandoning ships and swimming with the sharks, all because they were stubborn in their ways and chose obey the order from the captain for their ship or homes. When God is simply not the center of our lives, destruction comes. It is only wise to let the captain (God) lead the ship, since the two lieutenants can’t seem to navigate the ship in the right or agreeable course.

It also doesn’t help that Jackson’s parents speak ill of each other in the presence of their kids (passengers). This sort of disunity is enough to impose fear on everyone, that the fear of God becomes less pertinent because the fear of other things takes its place. If anyone reading this finds themselves in the same predicament, the solution is simple: When we make God the center of our world and every relationship that we find ourselves in, we stay afloat and avoid making hard decisions like ‘who to save” because no one dies when the Captain’s orders are followed. That’s the point of having the Captain on board and having a system that is tested and proven to work.  God would rather take over the parental role, than to allow you to crash, like the Titanic. Even in the film, the captain ended up taking control of the ship because the lieutenants were not in synch on which direction to take the boat.

  1. Even if one parent hasn’t been there for you as much as the other, honor them both in the same way that you would honor the one who’s been there for you the most, for this is pleasing to the lord. Keep in mind, if you are like my friend Jackson, you don’t need anything from either parent, but to please God should be your only desire.
  2. Get both of your parents to see that they have to be in synch with God, for the sake of your own relationship with God. They don’t have to be married, if that is what they choose to do, for that matter is between them and God, but they certainly have to respect each other and honor the will of the captain (God).
  3. If your parents really love you, they would be willing to do this because in doing this, it would only bring you closer to the will of God.
  4. Your parents need to work out their issues and reevaluate that vision that they had for their ship when they got on board and if you, as the passenger, have to be the one to sit them down and get them to see what they may lose, then by all means, do it. Better to stay afloat than to swim with the fishes.

God is a man of his words and because we are his children; he will honor us according to his word, as long as we are trying to follow his path, but if we are not trying to follow his path, he will give us a detour so that we don’t fall into destruction or get derailed by our foolishness.



  1. Buchi Ogbo
    March 9, 2016 / 4:34 am

    Another provocative piece on love and submission except this time, the love is toward God. Thank you for sharing.

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      March 9, 2016 / 4:52 am

      Thank you for always being supportive. We’re grateful for you Buchi! I’m glad you liked this one 🙂

  2. Teefade
    March 9, 2016 / 6:15 am

    A beautiful write up well orchestrated.

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      March 9, 2016 / 11:59 am

      Hey there,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post. We are thrilled that you enjoyed it and were blessed by it. Hope you’ll stick around with us; we have many more awesome posts just like this that will impact your life in a positive way. Thanks again!!! We appreciate you

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