God selects what man rejects. If you’re with a man or woman who doesn’t seem that interested in you or invested in having a secure future with you, thank that individual and let them be. In the bible when God saw that Leah, (the reportedly ugly older sister of Rachel) was unloved by Jacob, he took action and made Rachel (the desired one) childless and gave Leah the gift of a child in her womb. I want to reassure someone today that God cares about the unloved and is prepared to take action on your behalf.
Bottom line is, if God alone isn’t enough for you, then no one ever will be. Many of us build foundations wrongly. Majority of us like to cut corners and take short cuts, with little knowledge of the fact that the very house that we’re building is the very one that will sustain us.
God is sovereign. For anyone who’s ever been rejected, chosen last, made to feel less than, has ever wanted someone more than they wanted you or has ever walked into a room just to have people turn their backs in mockery, this post is for you. I want you to know today that God has a unique way of selecting the ones whom people have rejected. If only Jacob knew what was in Leah… the gifts that God had deposited in her that were yet to be revealed… I’m sure he would have thought twice, BUT because Jacob didn’t even like himself and was so full of insecurities undealt with, he couldn’t even see Leah for who God had called her to be in his life. Such a pity! But yet God still prevailed because his master plan went far beyond any of them.
Bottom line is, we will all deal with rejection at some point in our lives, but bare this in mind: rejection isn’t a negative thing at all, it’s a redirection. When people reject you- for one reason or another, it simply means that they weren’t meant for you. You can manipulate the situation anyway that you want, but the truth never changes. Take it as a blessing and learn to just be. Don’t waste your time on messed up Jacobs who, despite what they may say, are still trying to find their way also.
It’s unfortunate how Leah, even after being rejected by Jacob and chosen by God, still felt the need to prove something to everyone else, especially to the one who rejected her to begin with: Jacob. She tried so hard to please a man who could not be pleased and to be good enough for a man who she would never be good enough for, even if she woke up one day as Rachel, his desire.
The sin of discontentment has ruined countless relationships since Jacob’s day. Some couples get angry with God for not giving them children, while others who already have children look forward to the day when the kids will be grown up and be gone and they can finally have some peace and quiet. Homemakers want to be working wives, and working wives want to be full-time homemakers. There are Christians who are dissatisfied with the places they presently live, the jobs they have, the money they make, and the houses they live in. Something else always looks better to them. Some wives are not content with their husbands; they whine and nag them because the men don’t pay enough attention to them, doesn’t spend enough time with the children, won’t do little jobs around the house, or perhaps the men stay out too late or think more of their jobs, their cars, their hobbies, television or their favorite sports team more than they think of them. Similarly, some husbands are not content with their wives. They criticize them for the way they dress, the way they fix their hair, the way they cook, the way they smell, the way they keep the home and even the way they treat the children. They get upset because they sleep too late, eat too much, waste too much time, don’t do enough or for the fact that they spend too much money in a particular area. No matter how hard you try, you cannot please another person.
So Leah kept producing babies, thinking that it would cause him to love her more, if at all. Ladies, If you think a child will keep a man, you are fooling yourself, for nothing will keep a man who doesn’t want to stay- not your beauty and especially not a child. But yet…Leah couldn’t be anymore misguided. She bore Jacob children: Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah.
Even the desired one, Rachel, did the same thing that Sarah did when she enlisted the help of the maid servant to help her bear the children for Abraham. Rachel was desperate for her husbands love. Both ladies missed the point. Some husbands today say, “I could love her more if she would only be more sweet.” Love that functions only when she is sweet is not really love. God wants wives and husbands to sense their partners intense love for them even when they are acting like jerks (Eph. 5:25).
As you read this, I want you to reflect on your own life, who are you trying to get to love you and what sort of methods are you using to obtain and keep them? lastly, I want you to ask yourself: WHY? Why do you do it?. We’re not saying that having babies, being successful or producing is wrong; your motive will determine this.