Reject to Redirect

Reject to Redirect

God selects what man rejects. If you’re with a man or woman who doesn’t seem that interested in you or invested in having a secure future with you, thank that individual and let them be. In the bible when God saw that Leah, (the reportedly ugly older sister of Rachel) was unloved by Jacob, he took action and made Rachel (the desired one) childless and gave Leah the gift of a child in her womb. I want to reassure someone today that God cares about the unloved and is prepared to take action on your behalf.

Bottom line is, if God alone isn’t enough for you, then no one ever will be. Many of us build foundations wrongly. Majority of us like to cut corners and take short cuts, with little knowledge of the fact that the very house that we’re building is the very one that will sustain us.

God is sovereign. For anyone who’s ever been rejected, chosen last, made to feel less than, has ever wanted someone more than they wanted you or has ever walked into a room just to have people turn their backs in mockery, this post is for you. I want you to know today that God has a unique way of selecting the ones whom people have rejected. If only Jacob knew what was in Leah… the gifts that God had deposited in her that were yet to be revealed… I’m sure he would have thought twice, BUT because Jacob didn’t even like himself and was so full of insecurities undealt with, he couldn’t even see Leah for who God had called her to be in his life. Such a pity! But yet God still prevailed because his master plan went far beyond any of them.

Bottom line is, we will all deal with rejection at some point in our lives, but bare this in mind: rejection isn’t a negative thing at all, it’s a redirection. When people reject you- for one reason or another, it simply means that they weren’t meant for you. You can manipulate the situation anyway that you want, but the truth never changes. Take it as a blessing and learn to just be. Don’t waste your time on messed up Jacobs who, despite what they may say, are still trying to find their way also.

It’s unfortunate how Leah, even after being rejected by Jacob and chosen by God, still felt the need to prove something to everyone else, especially to the one who rejected her to begin with: Jacob. She tried so hard to please a man who could not be pleased and to be good enough for a man who she would never be good enough for, even if she woke up one day as Rachel, his desire.

The sin of discontentment has ruined countless relationships since Jacob’s day. Some couples get angry with God for not giving them children, while others who already have children look forward to the day when the kids will be grown up and be gone and they can finally have some peace and quiet. Homemakers want to be working wives, and working wives want to be full-time homemakers. There are Christians who are dissatisfied with the places they presently live, the jobs they have, the money they make, and the houses they live in. Something else always looks better to them. Some wives are not content with their husbands; they whine and nag them because the men don’t pay enough attention to them, doesn’t spend enough time with the children, won’t do little jobs around the house, or perhaps the men stay out too late or think more of their jobs, their cars, their hobbies, television or their favorite sports team more than they think of them. Similarly, some husbands are not content with their wives. They criticize them for the way they dress, the way they fix their hair, the way they cook, the way they smell, the way they keep the home and even the way they treat the children. They get upset because they sleep too late, eat too much, waste too much time, don’t do enough or for the fact that they spend too much money in a particular area. No matter how hard you try, you cannot please another person.

So Leah  kept producing babies, thinking that it would cause him to love her more, if at all. Ladies, If you think a child will keep a man, you are fooling yourself, for nothing will keep a man who doesn’t want to stay- not your beauty and especially not a child. But yet…Leah couldn’t be anymore misguided. She bore Jacob children: Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah.

Even the desired one, Rachel, did the same thing that Sarah did when she enlisted the help of the maid servant to help her bear the children for Abraham. Rachel was desperate for her husbands love. Both ladies missed the point. Some husbands today say, “I could love her more if she would only be more sweet.” Love that functions only when she is sweet is not really love. God wants wives and husbands to sense their partners intense love for them even when they are acting like jerks (Eph. 5:25).

As you read this, I want you to reflect on your own life, who are you trying to get to love you and what sort of methods are you using to obtain and keep them? lastly, I want you to ask yourself: WHY? Why do you do it?. We’re not saying that having babies, being successful or producing is wrong; your motive will determine this.

 

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22 Comments

  1. Internationalcaty
    May 15, 2017 / 12:51 am

    Very interesting reading

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      May 15, 2017 / 12:59 am

      Thank you for reading 😀

  2. Maggie
    May 15, 2017 / 1:24 am

    This is an amazing Sunday read! It really put things in perspective!

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      May 15, 2017 / 1:41 pm

      Thanks for reading Maggie! I’m so glad it was able to do this for you; that’s our goal 🙂

  3. chavamazal
    May 15, 2017 / 3:10 am

    You have a very unique perspective. I think it’s wonderful you’re so inspired in your faith.

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      May 15, 2017 / 12:04 pm

      Thanks Chava. Your name is so familiar. I remember you from my other post:http://www.absolutelychi.com/when-good-memories-hurt/ .Thank you for always taking the time to read our posts. I’m trying to let my life be a ministration because I’m unsure of what else to use at the moment. Work without faith and service isn’t work at all. I hope I’ve served you well with this post.

  4. May 15, 2017 / 5:28 am

    What a relevant message in an age when so many have been rejected and keep trying to win back the one who rejected them. We need to find our worth in God alone. He is the one who will always love us.

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      May 15, 2017 / 11:59 am

      I couldn’t agree with you more Barbara. Thank you for taking the time to read our post this week. Rejection isn’t really a rejection. I have learned to see it as a redirection. If someone wants to leave, that is a choice that they’ve made. If you force something or someone who wants to go, to stay… it’s not real. You will have to spend all your energy then convincing them to remain over and over again. No one has the time or the energy for that. We only get one life to live. If people want to walk out of your life, don’t hold them back. God is in the business of pruning what doesn’t belong.

  5. May 15, 2017 / 6:54 am

    good times come when we sit down and read amazing posts like this that redefines our sense of belonging and reason to feel more worthy ourselves than the world out there does to us, Thansk alot ##Nwannem Nwanyi## (My Sister in IGBO)… you sure know how to write the most inspiring posts. i am inspired.

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      May 15, 2017 / 11:51 am

      Nwannem nwanyi, nwanyi oma! thank you for gracing us with your presence. I appreciate you for reading our post this week. I’m glad you were inspired. I thank God that I can use my own life to minister to someone else. We shouldn’t allow people to qualify us or make us feel inadequate. People are people and God is still God. There is a huge difference, which i am eternally grateful for. Remain inspired nne 🙂

  6. May 15, 2017 / 9:36 am

    Thank you for this! I’ve been going for some job interviews and they go great, and then I don’t get them. This post helps me feel that it’s all for a reason, and God is just waiting for the right job for me.! THank you.

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      May 15, 2017 / 11:46 am

      God is still in the business of surprising people. Remain expectant and take your desires before God in prayer and see what he’s capable of doing for you. Something that helps me when I’m making my requests to God is: going with gratitude for what he’s already done for me. I am very specific with each thanks. Sarah, a rejection is not the end. I have had enough to know that it’s a blessing in a painful temporary disguise. That feeling that you’re feeling now, I want you to remember it, because when the lord does bless you with a job that surpasses what you applied for, you’ll need to remember that feeling, because it’s through that feeling that you’ll be empowered to give the most thanks. Thank you so much for reading my post this week. I pray that the lord will reveal to you his perfect plan for your life.

  7. May 15, 2017 / 11:41 am

    Thanks for sharing this. I always think of it’s not a rejection it’s actually an answer. I know it can be disappointing and just make us feel low (I’ve been feeling it lately) but then I remember our Lord knows what is in store for us the hard thing is patience ohhhh how hard it is. We need to remember that our Lord sees the bigger picture we just need to trust in him and wait and not jump. I always say Thy will not Mine Lord but yours.

  8. May 15, 2017 / 12:45 pm

    This is just what i needed Monday morning. it really is setting me week up in a positive way. I have a fresh perspective and I’m loving it.

    • Chinomso Odimegwu
      May 15, 2017 / 1:35 pm

      oh, I’m so pleased to hear this! Happy Monday 😀

  9. May 15, 2017 / 1:54 pm

    Bottom line is, if God alone isn’t enough for you, then no one ever will be. ( love this) I have the drop the mic image in my head. Great post! I love TD Jakes he tellls it like it is no grey there all the WORD

  10. May 15, 2017 / 4:48 pm

    Great post! I believe if the answer is “no” it is because God has something greater. Sometimes we get so caught up in our will and not God’s will. I used to get so frustrated when I felt rejected or received the answer I didn’t want. But then I learned to pray for God’s will. If I pray for something I need/want, I make sure to follow it with “according to Your will Lord”. I’ve been learning more and more about the importance of seeking God’s will and being obedient to Him. Your post is inpsiring!!

  11. May 19, 2017 / 2:42 am

    This seems like a good (but difficult) way to think about rejection. This sort of thing really hurts most of the time, no matter who does it, but reframing things can help for sure.

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